I was watching Good Morning America the other day, which is part of my weekend ritual after discovering their weekend anchor’s books and podcast on meditation. (I’ll write a post later but Dan Harris’ books, 10% Happier and Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics are pretty awesome. Harris has a personality that could maybe make me interested in about anything!) GMA makes good background noise while I’m doing things, and it’s light enough to be fun. And occasionally I learn things. In this episode, I learned that there is a thing called “Good Riddance Day”, which is celebrated by giant shredders being brought into Times Square. The idea is that people write down their worst memories from the year and get supreme satisfaction from watching them become confetti. One of the GMA anchors brought a whole suitcase of her “baggage” from 2017.
This is just the kind of thing I love. I won’t lie– I love “quirky” things like “talk like a pirate day” (Sept 19), so this is right up my alley. I also love rituals, and think the right kinds can be really helpful, especially in times of change. But this day suits my fancy as I think about all the things we carry around that really affect us in some ugly ways. And the truth is that some of what we carry around drastically impairs our ability to make big changes– like losing weight.
As you make space for a new and better year (and for a new and better you), what do you need to say “Good Riddance” to? That’s a question that only you can answer, but here are some suggestions to get you started:
- The notion that you “can’t” ____________________
- Relationships that are no longer life giving, or are down-right toxic
- Old visions of yourself that you have outgrown. (Note: these can be how you see yourself, but also other people’s expectations of you.)
- Emotional/mindless eating
- The need to always say yes
- Things that make you sad, stressed, or sleepless
- “Stuff” that is broken, or that doesn’t make you happy, or that takes up too much space–physical or mental
- Crappy attitudes (Face it. It happens.)
I’m working with a number of things from that list, but like you probably have discovered too, sometimes that’s easier said than done. I’ve been in the process of transforming my self for several years, on several fronts. And I’ve needed to walk away from a lot of things, including my own baloney, in order to continue becoming who I’m supposed to be. (You can read part of that journey here.) One of the things I realized is that the scale measured 250lbs– but there was a ton of weight that the scale couldn’t measure. But as I got lighter, some of my baggage lessened. As some of my baggage lessened, I got lighter.
A brand new year full of new opportunities, new challenges, new joys, and probably lots of other new things, begins tomorrow. And you’ll need all of who you are to greet all of these things. But how can you, or anybody, do that when your hands and heart are completely full of the old?
Write it down and shred it. Or burn it. Stomp on it if you need to. Or box it up and give it away. Dance around and sing Disney’s “Let It Go” as loud as you can. Do what ever it takes so that you can run joyfully and with the highest expectations into 2018!
Happy New Year, Loves! Annnnd,, Happy New YOU!
“Don’t be afraid to make your amazing happen! What do you need to get rid of to make it happen? You’ve got what it takes, but it’s going to take all you’ve got!”